I cannot begin to tell you how time has flown past and as we head towards a new new year, I tend to feel it that much more. Like where did the year go, and how did my kids get so big!
Being a mum of a tween means watching a number of changes happen to your once baby and being asked "questions" of all sorts. All I can think of is, no, this is all to soon, please stay little!
But here we are, growing up which is certainly apart of the journey. It's far from when we grew up. Its so different for our kids, they are having to live through a different time with different influences.
So while I would ideally avoid these questions like the plague and hope the phase passes quick, Logan and I have made a choice to be the FIRST voice to talk to our kids about everything or as much as we possibly can get in 😉. There are so many reasons for parents to be first to talk to kids. (but for another post 😉)
Dealing with awkward questions and talking about growth, body changes and everything else that goes with "tweening" regardless whether you have girls or boys, is our responsibility as parents!
We can ignore it, brush it off with inappropriate answers or tackle it head on! I'm sharing a few things I've learned (and continue to learn) during the tween phase that may help you too.
Oh btw, tweens are classified from age 8 to 12.
1. Be open to questions in fact, create the atmosphere and platform for it to be asked. I'd rather be the one to share information on any critical topic with my child rather than have them hear from someone else. By being the first, I get to align their thought according to our family values.
2. Don't be weird about physical changes and wonder why they become reluctant and shy around you. Let them know we have all been through it and it's ok.
3. Provide honest answers but protect their innocence. Physical changes are happening at such young ages, I don't know what it is but it would appear that kids bodies are developing faster than their minds can handle so if you see physical changes early on, you can choose how much information you share about reproduction and sex etc or wait until the appropriate age when the maturity is there . When that appropriate age is, will be your choice as a parent and will depend on your child.
4. Gently give them an opportunity to share their views yet be firm in aligning their values.
5. Don't miss understand their new found independence for sidelining you.
6. Do fun things too because some days can be heated with moods and things, so look beyond .
7. Make sure his/her diet and nutritional needs are being met.
8.Make sure they are getting enough sleep. Seems kinda obvious but sleep affects EVERYTHING, their mood, their energy levels, their ability to concentrate in school and so on.
9. Be kind to them, it's a vulnerable stage really, and they are watching us closely, taking their que from us.
Love to hear your views on this topic and how you deal with it! 👇🏽